Barbara and I saw a theatre production of Indigenous people telling their own stories of tragedy in history and how that trauma is passed down. How women have often been the most resilient and the men often falling prey to fear, hatred. In the program booklet, the Artistic Director, Justin Many Fingers makes his own assessment after researching a massacre of Indigenous people in 1870 in Montana by the calvary. He see "fear" as that what stands in the way of love, and men in his view are not loving their children as they should today. He is questionning the nature and role of men and how boys and men have come to see themselves, construct "manhood" and yet he points out that they are doing so not within the good traditions of the old ways and are rather producing generations of boys and men that are disconnected from loving and in my view, in all societies, men are settling for trying to look and be tough as the solution to their fear that they rarely admit is there controlling their lives. Justin points to the fascinating possibility that indeed women will have to be the truly strong (and loving) guides for Indigenous men and boys... but I think this could be generalized everywhere, across cultures. There is so much unhealed woundedness in boys and men they don't know how to manage. Women more naturally seem to be able to access their instincts, their body sources, and practices of healing.